Ever since I was a little girl, my mother and grandmother made a point to teach me a thing or two about how to operate in different social settings as someone that’s invited. Whether it be a birthday party, a church lunch something more formal like an afternoon tea or wedding, there’s something to be said about knowing a tip or two to help guide you through any social situation.
Now that folks are more comfortable gathering together post-COVID, I’ve caught myself feeling a little awkward at times especially around new people or in new places. When I feel this way, I reflect on the lessons my mother, grandmother and aunts taught me on how to graciously navigate myself and in some cases those around me. I’m so excited to share these nuggets with y’all!
Start with hello
Take it back to grade school– sometimes its as simple as saying “Hello, I’m _____” when encountering a new person or a face you haven’t seen in a while. Its okay to admit that you’re excited, or a little nervous in these introductions because aren’t we all? Once you’ve tossed your name around a few times, you’ll start to open up more, spark more natural conversations and work the room with a little more ease.
don’t forget your manners
Please and thank you are literally the magic words. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve interacted with people and they haven’t whispered a please or thank you or excuse me to anyone. You may not think it matters, but it does and in the South, folks can get uncomfortable when you forget the basics.
If you’re at an event where you’re being served, look your waiter or waitress in the eye and thank them or when making a request of them, don’t forget to say please. When moving around the room, a pardon me or excuse me will mitigate those awkward moments when someone is blocking your path. Manners matter!
ALWAYS BRING A HOSTESS GIFT
Depending on the event its customary to bring a little something as a thank you for the invitation! Don’t spin your wheels on what to bring, I’ve got you covered. Make sure it follows the three “Fs”:
- Frictionless: A gift for the host or hostess should never be more work for them.
- Festive: Present the gift with care and excitement! I guarantee your hostess is a little nervous and wats the party to go well. Sharing a smile and a beautifully presented gift in their honor will help calm their nerves and get them in the party spirit.
- Favorites: If you know their favorite scent, flavor or color it’s wise to incorporate that in the gift. For example, my grandmother loves darker colors like navy and purples, so I’ll add a purple note card in the gift bag with a peony scented candle. Takes no time and adds all the personalization!
Some of my favorite hostess gifts live on this blog post here! Click the links in it to shop or gather more inspiration.
master the graceful goodbye
Maybe your social clock has run out or you have somewhere else to be. Whatever your reason, your exit is just as important as your exit. Make sure to say goodbye to the host/ hostess and thank them for a wonderful time, gather your belongings and acknowledge the other guests that you may have spent time with during the event. Nothing is more unpleasant then scooting out the back and leaving others pondering where you went!
For an added touch, send a thank you note to the host or hostess. Its a simple way to express your appreciation and ensure you’re invited back. Bonus points if its on personalized stationary (my favorites are from Julia East Designs).
Social gatherings don’t have to be uncomfortable or awkward! Let me know how you’re going to incorporate these tips at your next event and please share any in the comments, the more the merrier!
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